This Ain’t Working
New York Yankees great Yogi Berra is often lauded for his accomplishments on the field, as both a player and a manager. But it’s what he’s accomplished off the field that impresses me the most.
You see, Berra has been married to his wife for more than 50 years. Perhaps it’s this quote that explains the secret to their successful marriage:
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I’m pretty sure Yogi didn’t intend to, but he actually hit on two important keys for a great relationship. You need to know how to have a good time together — in other words, how to have fun. And you need to know the other person is thinking about you, even when you’re apart from each other.
A solid, sustainable marriage doesn’t just “happen.” It takes effort. And, frankly, sometimes it takes a lot of effort.
When I counsel couples whose marriage isn’t working — for one or both of them — it’s usually because they’ve become bogged down in finger-pointing, holding on to past hurts, and the paralysis of inaction. For a relationship to thrive, each person has to be willing to:
- Accept their part in the problem. You’ve heard the old saying, but it’s true: There are always two sides to every story. Understanding what your spouse is feeling, and how your actions affect them, is the first step toward developing empathy and getting the relationship back on the right track.
- Admit the unresolved hurt. Life is full of nicks and cuts, little bruises that, if dealt with on a daily basis, are not that big a deal. But when we hold on to them, and nurse them, we only end up hurting ourselves. The best course of action is to get them all out on the table, deal with them, and then move on.
- Always be willing to do whatever it takes. The fastest route to a great marriage occurs when both people are willing to give their all — when both are willing to lay aside their tendency to ‘keep score,’ and instead focus on serving and meeting the needs of their partner.
When a couple is willing to put that kind of effort into the relationship, more often than not it will lead to a place of greater love, joy and companionship. In fact, you’ll likely find yourself enjoying common ground with Yogi Berra — having a good time together. Even when you’re not together.